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Thoughts on Probate and Serving as the Executor of an Estate

  Probate is the legal process of settling an estate after someone dies. However, it can be avoided in some cases, such as: •             If the total value of assets in the estate falls below a minimum value as determined by state law or •             If some or all of the assets will pass directly to the heirs using methods such as joint ownership, beneficiary designations, living trusts, or gifts. This blog post will highlight ways to avoid probate court. But first, let’s address Probate. For ease of writing, I will use the term “Executor” to describe the role responsible for settling the estate. The Executor has a fiduciary responsibility to the estate and its beneficiaries. The Executor can also be referred to as the “administrator,” “representative,” “fiduciary,” or sometimes “agent.” If a Trust is involved, it could be a trustee. If there is a Living Trust, there should also be a Will for anything that the Trust does not cover. However, anything going through the Will
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A Discussion of Grand Parenting

This discussion was based on the premise of the book  Grand Parenting  by Dr. Josh Mulvihill. The premise is provocative: what is the biblical role of grandparents? Here is a review of the book and CDs. ·         This is a complex topic;  everyone’s situation is different  - different relationships with our children and their spouses; some families are physically near, others separated by time zones; many complications; no one answer. But we need to be intentional and have a strategy. ·         We are in danger of defaulting to the worldly model of grandparenting: a playmate? A companion? A convenient daycare? I had my turn at parenting. Good Luck! Santa Claus? An inconvenience whose visits inconvenience the family? ·         New social contract - some of our children believe they deserve independence, don’t want enmeshment, and don’t want parents butting into their parenting with their religion. ·         What does the Bible say is our role as grandparents? Not a lot, BUT DT 4

Choosing Happiness

 “I wish that I had let myself be happier” is one of the regrets reported by Bonnie Ware in serving patients near the end of their lives.  She goes on to say that “Many did not realise until the end that happiness is a choice.” Here is my question. Is this true from a Christian perspective?  Can we choose happiness? I have been thinking about this, and here are some scriptures that have come to mind. “I have set the Lord always before me;  because he is at my right hand, I shall not be shaken. Therefore my heart is glad, and my whole being rejoices.” Psalm 16: 7-8 “Cast your burden on the Lord, and he will sustain you.” Psalm 55:22 “Let not your hearts be troubled. Believe in God; believe also in me.” John 14:1 “In all our affliction, I am overflowing with joy.” 2 Corinthians 7:4 “Rejoice in the Lord always; again I will say, rejoice.” Phil 4:4 These scriptures come in the form of commands and mechanisms to accomplish gladness or rejoicing by keeping the Lord before

Improving Thinking Skills and Memory

Perhaps one of the biggest fears as we age is the diminishment of our memory and cognitive abilities.  Wanting to learn more about this process led me to read Keep Sharp: Build a Better Brain at Any Age by Sanjay Gupta M.D. The author’s theme is that “The brain can be continuously and consistently enriched throughout your life no matter your age or access to resources.” He highlights that there is good scientific evidence that focusing on what he calls the five pillars of brain health can strengthen our cognitive function. These pillars include Move, Discover, Relax, Nourish and Connect. Here is a brief overview of what he shared in each of these areas. 1.        Move: Not surprisingly, perhaps the most impactful pillar is exercise. The author notes that “Exercise can act as a ‘first aid kit’ for damaged brain cells.”   Even low-intensity activity like regular walking has shown positive brain outcomes. 2.        Discover: This is the concept of stretching your brain by learning

Financial Plans and Risks

Recently I have been listening to some Webinars about retirement, which are sponsored by my financial advisor’s company. One of the most interesting to me was managing risk relative to your financial plan for retirement. I thought I would share some thoughts from this webinar with you, which you might find helpful. As a believer, this subject of planning, especially financial planning, immediately returns us to the issue of the Sovereignty of God vs. man’s responsibility. Do I really need to plan? Why not just pray and trust God. “Let go and let God?” God is Sovereign, and He establishes all of my steps. A brief visit to Proverbs convinces me that God expects us to plan and endorses prayerfully considered plans. Prov 16:9 – “The heart of man plans his way, but the LORD establishes his steps.” (see also Prov 16:3, 20:18, 21:5). I do not believe that a philosophy of “let go and let God” honors Him. So let us plan for retirement, and may our plans be bathed in prayer and made after seek

Five Questions from Retirement Reformation

In his book, Retirement Reformation , Bruce Bruinsma, poses a number of crucial questions to consider for retirement planning purposes. Here are some of them to think through.  What are you going to do?   Potentially you will have 10, 20, or even 30 years of retirement. Will you design a new lifestyle, establish a new routine, set new goals?  Where are you going to do it?   Many retirees downsize.  Others move closer to family. Some move to a retirement community. Some sell everything and travel in an RV or move to Mexico. Who are you going to do it with? You need other people in your life. The author maintains that "As we grow older, our world shrinks. Friends die, move away or become incapacitated.  Expanding our community, not shrinking it, is a priority for aging." How are you going to finance it? The author notes that "Surveys show that 75% of people in retirement age are anxious about money.  Some are anxious about not having enough.  Others are driven crazy by t

Additional Considerations on Relocating in Retirement

  The obvious: Pray/seek God's guidance.  While some Scripture passages speak well of old age, there is no retirement plan like one reads about in Kiplingers or Money magazine. King David died in a palace (but with a bit of strife within his family).  Moses died somewhere in Moab (not the Promised Land).  Mary (mother of Jesus) was given to the care of the disciple Jesus loved (probably John).  The Apostle John may have died in Patmos (maybe in a cave). Paul and Peter did not have a Kiplingers' retirement.  Enoch's last days sound a bit more appealing.  If you like hot rods or roller coasters - Elijah.  I suspect that, back in Biblical times, there were more conventional ways for people to live their senior years, and for most of us, our retirements will be reasonably traditional within our times.  But, with God, there's an element of faith. More secular thoughts: -           If possible, try "vacationing" in the prospective area for a few months (particul